If you follow my blog at all it would come at no surprise to you that I consider myself to be a “Project Mom.” The definition of a project mom is very simple, I am a mommy who always has things on a “To-Do List” and I am constantly doing this around the home to improve things. I do furniture flips, paint, re-do things, do crafts, make scrapbooks, create movies of my children, organize different aspects of our home and the list goes on. My husband has been stressed out since we have moved into this home, because I constantly have a project going on. The only unfinished project we have right now is painting the home, because it hasn’t been sunny enough to finish painting. Other than that, I think this is the first time in 2 years that I haven’t had an unfinished project.
What it is really like to be a project mom? There are some misconceptions about being a project mom that I would love to clear up.
Myth #1: You ignore your children to do projects:
Truth: The truth is, I don’t do projects if they ever jeapordize the time I spend with my kids. I usually do projects when my 2 year old is asleep and my 3 year old is in his “quiet time.” His quiet time is when I force him to just sit and watch a show so that he can just take a break from all of his running around. He is 3 years old and probably should be still taking naps, but he refuses. So we just do a quiet time. Other projects I can do around them while they are just playing and some projects they can even help! My three year old LOVES watching me paint and so I can paint in front of him and he thinks that is so much fun. However, most of my projects are done when the kids are asleep and Derek (the hubby) is playing some sort of computer game!
Myth #2: You never just get to sit and relax
Truth: On the contrary, doing projects is the ONLY time I get to relax. As of right now I have a 2 year old, a 3 1/2 year old and so I don’t get much relaxing during the day. I am constantly moving. I am getting snacks, cleaning up the snacks that they dumped on the floor, changing dirty diapers, reading books, doing at home preschool, constantly telling the kids, “no hitting” “love your brother” “please stop crying” “get off of that please” “don’t touch that.” I hear crying, whining, moping and tantrums all day long. There isn’t much “quiet” going on in this home. When my two boys are awake they fight and then when my 2 year old goes to sleep my 3 year old has nobody to beat up and so then he is really demanding during that time.
When they get to go to bed and I get to do projects it is amazing. I turn on Netflix on my phone and paint, sand, build, make etc in peace. I love it! I get to be left alone. Nobody asks me to do anything and I can be selfish for about an hour. It is amazing. Yes, sometimes it feels great to be selfish, because I am constantly thinking and doing things for tiny people.
Myth #3: Other aspects of your life get forgotten
Truth: Some people (mainly people who aren’t project moms) question my ability to do more things. They think all I am is the mom who paints everything she can. They think I am the mom who can’t focus on anything else! Well, this just isn’t true. First of all, it would be impossible for me to focus only on projects. I am pregnant, I have two toddlers, I have a puppy and a kitty.
I also hold two different “callings” (volunteer positions) in my church. One of which requires me to be in complete control of the Wolf Cubs in my district. I have to plan activties, meet with them once a week and make sure that they are getting awards. I also have church every Sunday that lasts for three hours where I lead the music during one of those hours.
I also run this blog. I try to post something every week.
I am a freelance writer where I make money on the side where I am writing for different clients. I haven’t done to much of that in the last month because I didn’t want to take on any new clients while being so pregnant and having a newborn. Once baby is about a month or so old then I can begin writing for some new clients again!
Myth #4: It takes a special person to be a project mom
Truth: It doesn’t take a “special” person to be a project mom. It takes a person who is self-motivated and hates to procrastinate. In other words, you just can’t be lazy. I am never that person who explains ALL of my amazing ideas and then I never do anything about it. Sometimes I don’t think things all the way through because I am just a “mover and doer.” If you want to be a project mom you have to take out excuses. There are SO many excuses that you can have ESPECIALLY when you are a mom. “I am too tired” “I don’t have enough time” “I have too many other things to be doing.” All of these are just excuses that you are telling yourself so that you don’t have to do any projects. The only acceptable excuse is, “I don’t have money.” Because that often is the reason I don’t do projects. We are poor haha.
I love being a project mom! It gives me a purpose. It give me an identity. I LOVE being a mother. I LOVE my children. But a mother isn’t all of who I am. I am also Nicole. I love being able to identify myself by my hobbies and the fun things that I do as opposed to just identifying myself as a mother.