I have secretly (okay not so secretly) be wanting a dog since my husband and I got married (well even before that), but I refused to get a dog until we had a home. I didn’t want a dog in an apartment. I didn’t want to pay the extra fees and walk millions of up and down the stairs potty breaks. That sounded a lot more work than fun. Plus Derek and I got pregnant only two months into marriage and I was SO sick! So it was never a real possibility.
Derek and I then had our second child and bought a house two months after he was born. Our sweet second child was possibly the hardest baby in the century. Like you guys… He cried all day long no matter what!! He only pooped once every two weeks, had really bad acid reflex and had painful eczema. Not only that but he has very much an impatient personality! I love him so very much! I’d do anything for him (and believe me I have) but I just couldn’t have another baby (aka a dog) during the first year of my little C’s life.
My older son is now 2 1/2 and little C is 14 months. A few weeks ago my lovely husband mentioned the fact that our house always has crumbs!! We sweep and vacuum every day, but I swear my toddlers are growing crumbs as fast as our fruit flies reproduce (check out this post to get that joke). So he jokingly mentioned the fact that we should get a dog!! Oh I was so excited!!! So we went to the humane society and we found an adorable four year old lab who was loving on my kids. I went up to the front and started filling out the necessary paper work to meet the dog. They then told me that we couldn’t see the dog because our children were too young. What? I started calling other places and everybody said the same thing! 🙁 Nobody would make appointments with us!
I wrote on Facebook asking for more Human Socieity’s in the area and people were giving me ideas (most of the places I had already tired) But then my aunt Sierra told me that her doggy was pregnant and would be popping any day and we could have one for free!! Uhhh yes please!
Nobody is as excited as us. Not one person has shared our excitement. Well… Expect for my mom. My mom would support me even if I told her that I wanted to be a professional transgender skydiver. It’s 2016… I’m sure that’s a real thing hehe. Anyway, everybody else has expressed their concerns, others tell us we’re crazy and some put they’re head in their hands and say my name over and over (vocally shaming me). Let me tell you 10 reasons why I want a puppy.
1. To Help Me Cope
In October 2012 I had surgery on one of my ovaries. Cysts weren’t new to me. I had tummy pains several times that would keel me over. But a tumor cyst was new. They had to scrape off some of my ovary (sorry for the imagery: there’s a point I swear). After my surgery they told me it might take awhile to have my body regulate and become pregnant. I knew that when I got married my husband and I would want kids back to back to not have any problems. I got married in May 2013 (6 months after surgery), got off birth control in June 2013 and figured out we were pregnant in July 2013 haha! When my son was born I knew that he was a fluke so we tried again when my son was 7 months old and we found out we were pregnant four weeks later. My kids are 16 months apart.
So then when my second was five months old I got off the mini pill. I knew this one would take a little longer because I was nursing every two hours still (even through the night). So I eagerly waited for that positive pregnancy test. It’s harder for women with tons of cysts the longer you take because your cysts will just keep adding more cysts to the group and chances of having a viable pregnancy is smaller odds. I still had hopes though! I got pregnant 7 months after getting off the mini pill. And I was so ecstatic. I couldn’t handle it!! I told my husband and my family and then a couple days later I was in the ER for a miscarriage. It tore me apart. I was numb. Hurt. And completely devastated!! I decided to name him Malachi. I got pregnant shortly after and I started sobbing! I knew this one would stick!!! I told my husband, my family and my husband’s family. At 5 1/2 week (maybe six weeks) I lost the baby. I died inside. Why? Why is this happening?! I named him Ezra.
I want a baby so badly. A puppy would be crazy and horrible and a lot of work. But he would certainly fill my baby need!! I know a puppy would help me cope with another lose if that is in the cards.
2. My Childhood Dog Changed My Life
Okay, I know the above post was pretty real about Nicole but this one gets serious. So as a young girl I new I was different. I didn’t fit in. I didn’t feel like I belonged. I will write a more substantial post about this later, but for right now I will just keep on the surface. I had depression. Not like “Oh I’m sad drug me up” but I started feeling depressed at 8 years old. Even reading my old journal entries I can see it. My Mom put me in counseling because she saw it too. As I got older and went through puberty it understandably got worse. A lot worse.
I don’t know how many times I seriously thought about suicide. I didn’t have that one great friend who I could call at any second. Nobody through thick and thin better or worse. I’d spend every day. Every lonely day with my dog. He was my best friend. I know that’s cheesy. I’m a poet. Sue me hehe. But my dog never judged me. Always loved me. Never held grudges. Listened to me. I dressed him up. He was part of all of my games. Heck I even married him one point. Hahaha a story for another time. I made him into a calendar… Yes a calendar. 🙂 I remember in high school my doggy and i would look over the fence. I would scratch his back and he would listen to me cry. Sometimes he’d look over and lick my face. I sincerely cared about him just as much as a person.
When he passed away it was one of the hardest days in my life. Probably the hardest day in my life. I sobbed for weeks. Just writing this is making me cry and it was about five years ago.
Every time I would walk into my home I would look for him. For the first few weeks I’d even cry because I’d call his name and then I would remember he was gone. I almost died when my mommy gave away his stuff, but it was harder looking at his empty kennel bed.
Yes, I know you’re going to tell me that it’s going to be harder because I’ll be doing all the dirty work and not just the fun. But its not like my depression vanished away when I got married. My depression is a chemical imbalance and even with medication it still goes through good and bad days. I would love to have a friend that doesn’t talk, doesn’t give advice, didn’t judge and just sits and loves me.
3. A Puppy is a Fresh Start
Originally my husband and I wanted an older dog. A four year old golden retriever sounds amazing right?! My dog Rex was a great dog after four years. But… That was with proper training and socialization. How many humane society dogs have been property trained? Not many. Hence why nobody will even let us see any of the dogs. The liability is too high because the dogs are too crazy and need tons of training!! It’s like I’d have to rehabilitate a dog and hope he’s okay with my children. My very young children and possibly a newborn baby in the next year or two.
I am not unfamiliar with the difficulties of having a puppy. I get that puppies need to wake up a couple times a night to pee. I get that they chew on everything. They need check ups and shorts. They need to be trained. But I’d love to give him good habits rather than take away all of the bad ones.
4. A Friend For My Children
Just as I mentioned before how my dog was my best friend. I would love that for my children. I don’t want my kids to deal with as hard of emotional problems. But they will have their own things. I would love for them to have a friend. A best friend they can count on when life isn’t being fair.
We have a cat. They love their cat. We love Sammy the cat. He’s amazing. The kids love playing with the cat, but friendly innocent playing turns into really rough play. They start to jump on the cat. No matter how great of cat you have you can’t jump on your cat and the kids don’t understand why they can’t. Although my kids can’t jump on the puppy they can jump on the big dog it turns into! And the dog will love it!!
I can’t wait for them all to learn to wrestle and play together.
5. A Personal Vacuum Cleaner
Although dogs creates a lot of mess. I get it. They chew, dig, shed, and so on. BUT you don’t realize how much I clean and how little it looks like I clean. My kids are like walking tornadoes of food inspired messes. I would completely be lying if I said it wouldn’t be nice to have him clean up the little bits of crumbs that I can’t see until they have ants or flies gathering. That’s the worst! I am excited for my little friendly dog to come by and clean up the mess we don’t see!
My mommy said she didn’t realize how many crumbs get onto the ground until after my puppy Rex passed away.
6. Get Me Moving More
The last couple years I’ve had reasons to not exercise. Some of them legitimate and others hmmm are excuses. I have had surgeries, been pregnant, recovery from birth, school assignments, nursing, then pregnant again, then nursing, then moving into a house, taking care of two babies, two miscarriages, sickness, broken finger, bad jaw pain from TMJ, church responsibilities and of recently a horrible reaction to a pneumonia shot! With a puppy who needs to get out I literally have NO excuse but to take the puppy on walks. He’ll get me out in the fresh air, force me to have more “me” time, family walks and maybe get some runs in! Id love to have a companion to run with but still have me time. I’d love my husband to run with me but that requires a whole entourage!! We would have to bust out the double stroller and it just turns to mayhem.
7. Teach My Kids to Love Animals
What I don’t like is when children just are petrified of animals. They can’t even go near a dog, cat ect because they think that every animal is out to get them. Although I do think it is very important to teach children about how to “read” animals so they don’t catch a dog in corner while his head is down, ears are down, eyes aren’t blinking and tail is stiff. This is when your child should NOT be approaching the dog. BUT most dogs that you see out and about with their owners are NOT this type of dog (although always ask before petting). And children should learn to love ALL types of animals. I don’t want my child to not like cats because they just don’t understand them. I don’t my children to hate dogs because they never got the opportunity to raise one before. I am in NO way judging parents who don’t want to get pets. But in my experience my life was completley enriched for having animals. And I know my hubby would have loved to have had a dog and a cat when he was growing up.
I know that pet allergies are a real thing. I am allergic to cats. But did you know most cat allergies are because you are not used to the cat? It took me a couple days to “get used” to Sammy in the home and rubbing against my face for my allergies to die down. My eyes were puffy for about a week straight. But now…I literally haven’t sneezed since. So although I do believe that people are allergic to cats I also think it is “oh darn I guess we can’t get a cat” hehe. But for me I know how important pets are (in my opinion) to the improvement of children. I see way too many kids afraid of dogs that just shouldn’t be feared, because the kids are not understanding.
I hope I can teach children that animals are God’s creation. Some animals should not be approached due to the nature of their species (bees, snakes, some spiders ect). But that they should all be admired (except for moths….whose brainiac idea was that? Satan?) Anyways, I truly believe that God wants us to love ALL animals and I hope that my children learn to respect animals. (sidenote: no I am not a vegetarian. I also believe that God put some animals on this world for consumption. A little hypocritical I know, but that’s that.)
8. Have Somebody Always Happy to See Me
I am not perfect. Nobody is. We all work our butt off to strive for perfection, but it’s not going to happen in this life and that’s just how much of mortal men we are. We all have severe weaknesses and we are all trying to always improve ourselves. I am just trying my best (here is my post about I am Doing My Best). But sometimes I fall short of the person that I want to be. Sometimes I make my toddlers upset (and it will just get worse as they get older). And sometimes I make my hubby upset. I know…complete shocker! I am a delight! (right hubby?) Well you know what it is great? My puppy will always be happy to see me (well…unless he is guilty of something and I haven’t found out yet hehe). But we could all learn something from doggies. They have the most amazing ability to not hold grudges.
Here is goes again…Nicole getting real. I have a problem with wanting to be liked. I don’t change myself to be liked, because I feel people should just like me. I am adorable why wouldn’t people like me? But knowing people don’t like me really gets me down in the dumps. Even if it’s somebody I don’t like very much. There’s actually very few people in this world that I genuinely don’t like. But anyway, it’s hard for me to realize that maybe I am not everybody’s cup of tea. However, when I was in middle and high school I could always count on at least ONE person to always love me (besides my family who was forced to love me: dramatic teenager here). Rex my golden retriever.
I remember one time I was having a bad day. I had an anger issue when I was younger because of my depression. And I was having a very sad day and then Rex put his fat head in the garbage can. I smacked him on the bum and he coward and escaped to the other room. I put back the garbage underneath the sink and I immediately felt regret. I was super mad at myself. I went and I called for Rex and he tip toed around the corner and looked at me. I smiled at him and knelt down. He ran to me wagging his tail and attacked me with love. He completely forgave me. I really loved him for that. He loved me in spite of my short comings.
9. I Have a Year of Puppy Training Under My Belt
When I was in high school I really wanted to help volunteer for the humane society. Right when I turned 16 years old and got my licence I trained to work with the dogs. I spent a year learning how to train dogs. I taught dogs about walking on the leash, basic commands, basic socialization skills and to not jump when they get excited. I would be lying if I said I wasn’t really excited to try and see if I can 1. remember all of the things I learned (even though it was 10 years ago) and 2. I want to see if what I learned will actually work on my own dog. I did teach Rex all of the commands and that was before any formal training, so I hope that I can have a very well behaved dog.
I understand that no matter what you do that a puppy will be a puppy and it will take awhile
10: Keep Me Busy
Something that everybody who knows anything about me knows that I love staying busy. I don’t like sitting still and doing nothing. I am a goer and a doer. So anyway why not throw a puppy into my life to make things more interesting and keep busier! Just trying to be optimistic right?! What couldn’t be more exciting than a 2 1/2 year old, a 14 month old, 2 church callings, a home to manage and a puppy!? haha
There are still going to be those people out there that will do anything in their power to stop this from happening and to ruin the fun, joy and excitement of getting a puppy. I understand the difficulties. I know that it will probably be even harder than what I can even imagine. And I probably will write a post about the 10 worst things about having a puppy. But that will be fun to write when the time comes. There will be times that I think, “why did I do this?!” But I also thought that same thing when I had both of my children haha. But much like my children this isn’t something that I woke up one day and decided to get a puppy and went out to get one. My husband and I have been mulling over this for a few weeks/months and years now. I have prayed about.
In a few weeks my mom, the kids and I are going to go and look at the 11 puppies from the litter and choose the one that is best for our family. If at that point I am feeling reservations or get told to not have a puppy (by the man upstairs) then at that point I will have to walk away from the whole idea. This isn’t set in stone until that little puppy comes bounding through our doors.
I did want to share with people my thought process of even considering a puppy during such a early point on my children’s life.
I am VERY excited for this next adventure!