I am doing my best. Wait am I? Am I really? Wait, well…I think so. Most days at least. I think I’m a pretty good mom. I think I am a pretty good wife. I think all around I’m a pretty good person. And you know what? I think most people are too. I really do think most people are trying their best. Everybody has bad days, but for the most part I really think people are trying their best. I don’t know anybody who wakes up and says “I’m going to be a really mean person with a bad attitude today. I hope I can make everybody sad.” Of course you’re going to throw out names of your middle school or high school bullies or the deranged lunatic who wakes up and prepares for a horrific crime. There will obviously going to be those outliers in any circumstance. But, really though. The average adult is just doing their best. Sometimes (in your opinion) their best isn’t good enough.
Every morning I first wake up and think, “oh my gosh my kids are so annoying why am I up so early.” Hehe but quickly that passes with the utmost love for my children and the need to help them. The second thing I think in the morning is , “I want to get tons of stuff done today.” I hate the thought of standing still physically and metaphorically. I hate it. I graduated with my bachelor’s degree in three years. Even with having medical problems and three surgeries. I started in my Masters program that same year and graduated in two years. Even with giving birth and taking care of a baby. It’s been really tough to just “stand still” while being a stay at home mommy. I am constantly doing projects around the house, maintaining my blog, making money on the side through surveys and taking care of the kiddos. I still don’t feel like I’m doing enough! However, some mom’s are completely content with staying at home with the kids and just being with the kids. They love playing with their kids and maintaining house. And that’s okay!! My point of this story is everybody’s “best” is personal and totally opinion oriented.
We should never look at somebody and assume that they are more successful or less successful than us based on their own personal experiences. Look… Im a gal who drives herself crazy comparing. Sometimes to the point of a depression type state (woah we’re getting real up in here). Its funny though, I really don’t think I’m better than others. Sometimes if I’m feeling particularly grumpy and somebody says something stupid I think “wow I’m glad I’m not that stupid” but almost 99% of the time I’m thinking about how I don’t compare to others. As a younger woman when I thought about comparing myself to others it was mostly outer appearance. I knew I wasn’t as pretty and as skinny as the “popular girls” and that stung a little. But now it goes way deeper. Of course I would love to lose a couple pounds (like pretty much every woman in America), grow a couple inches and lose these zits of mine. But boy oh boy does my comparison go deeper than that. Like how do some mom’s keep their homes clean? Why are some mom’s so stinken crafty? Some people are so laid back and naturally cool. I have always wanted to have a super laid back “cool” presents about me. How do some people have so many friends? I have always always had a tough time making and keeping friends. But how are some women having these friends that they have literally grown up with? I’m obviously not as smart or nice or fun. And can we just take a moment and talk about all these people who are making money from their own business. I’m going to talk specifically about blogging. How are some of the women making $30,000 + a month blogging?! …. You guys… The list can go on.
And you know whats wrong with me? Nothing. Nothing is wrong with me. Nothing. I’m am literally trying my best. I am. I don’t have the most friends, but I try to be as friendly as I can. I don’t have the perfectly clean house but I am tidying and cleaning everyday. I am not the calm and quiet person, but Heavenly Father gave me this personality for a reason and I need to learn to love it.
What I’m saying is that sometimes (okay always) we compare ourselves to others. It’s almost human nature. But we need to stop. They tried their best. Their best led them to the “success” they have. Your best will lead you somewhere else. That’s how this works.
You know ideally I would want my tomb stone to say “she’s awesome and succeeded at everything” haha but that is not going to happen (nobody succeeds at everything) so I would much rather it say “she didn’t succeed at anything but she tried her very best’ as opposed to “she didn’t succeed at anything, because she thought she wasn’t going to succeed at anything so she didn’t try” just think about how much you grow and learn by trying to succeed that goal of yours.
Do you really think people with “success” (whatever you deem as success) didn’t work for it? I find myself being jealous of the money some people make. But more often than not they worked their butt off for that money. I don’t know their journey.
In this life we are asked to do our best. I feel like every once in awhile I fall short of my best because well…I am human. However, I feel all-in-all I am doing my best. I wish we would all assume everybody is doing their best and this world would be a more peaceful and humble place. We would have more patience and love for people if we knew they were doing all they could. And we would forgive quicker.
Hopefully one day we can all focus on our best and try to get to the top of our potential. I know that I need to stop looking at others “best” and be jealous that I am not amounting to their success. I am doing my best and sometimes people’s best looks better than mine. But who said I have reached my potential? After all…I am doing my best!