When people ask me to introduce myself or say a little bit about myself; what’s the first thing I say? I say “I have been married a little less than three years and I have two beautiful children” That’s what defines me right? I’m a wife and a mother. That’s me right?
It’s true! I am a wife and a mother.
I love being both, but I’m more than that. I’m a woman. I am Nicole.
I love sports. I love watching, playing, competing and having fun trash talking.
I have a Bachelors Degree in Sociology and a Masters Degree in Criminal Justice. I want to be a counselor and help people rehabilitate back into society. I truly believe people can change as long as they want to and they receive qualified help.
I love animals! I want to have 20 of every animal (well besides gross animals…like bees)! If I were Noah I would have just played with all of the animals the entire time and I would have gotten no work done. Probably good that I wasn’t the one asked to build the ark.
I love to go on walks alone. I’m a social person. I love parties, events and other social gatherings. I love talking and communicating. However, nothing beats alone time. In college I would always take night time walks. It was a great time to just enjoy life,experience nature by myself, reminisce about my blessings and slow things down. Life gets hectic sometimes but I love the simplicity of a relaxing stroll.
I love people!!! I love being around people. I love learning about new people, talking with people and laughing. Oh my gosh if I could laugh 24-7 I would. I think everything is funny. I am a really silly person!
The characteristics that describe me can go on and on. Nobody can be described in just a few sentences.
Although I am a wife and a mother that isn’t all I am! I have hopes, dreams, wants, needs and ambitions (even though my kids don’t think so).
I have plenty of weaknesses, but I also have a handful of talents! I can be stubborn and hard headed, but I can also be thoughtful and kind.
I can be annoying and overwhelming, but I can be generous and understanding.
Although my days are filled with cleaning and laundry (some days my husband would beg to differ) I really don’t like cleaning or doing laundry (gasp I know!!).
I am also Nicole. I am a strong, independent, intelligent and tenacious woman who happens to be a wife and a mother.
When my kids leave me and start their own lives (hard to imagine at this point) I don’t want to be left broken with no identity. I don’t want to be left wondering who I am because I’ve defined myself by my children for so long. I will undeniably be sad when that time comes, but I don’t want to be left trying to redefine Nicole. I’m still the same woman I was without the defining husband and children. I’m still the same woman (with a little more maturity and life experience).
I hope that other women can remember themselves. It’s hard when our lives are being smothered by the people who depend so heavily on us. But you need to remember that You are You! Take time for yourself. Don’t lose yourself.
Being a wife and a mother isn’t all of who you are! Love yourself. Be yourself.
I am a wife and a mother. But
I am a woman. I am Nicole.
I decided for this post to include pictures of myself. How often do we just have a post showing only our identity? It was actually very hard to find any current pictures that were just me!